6 Months of Motherhood

It seems to be a lot harder to write this blog than any other month of motherhood in the past.

And I couldn’t tell you why.

Maybe because the exhaustion has become the norm.

Maybe because it really does get easier.

Maybe because I’m a hot mess thinking that my baby boy is already 6 months old.

How does that happen?  How do 6 months seem like the longest and shortest months of my life? 

I clearly don’t have the answers for all of that.  But what I do have the answer for is exactly what I said in my 5 Months of Motherhood Blog…I’m soaking it all in.

Every cuddle, every whimper for mom, every giggle. 

Because these moments are fleeting, that’s for sure.

So what have I learned during this 6 Month of Motherhood?

That being a mother is who I was meant to be, but it is not who I am.  You see, I saw this quote one day while trolling Instagram….

"Maybe the journey isn't so much about becoming anything.  Maybe it's about unbecoming everything that really isn't you, so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place."

It struck a serious chord within me, and within so many mothers who reached out after I shared it.  Why?  Because becoming a mother is, in my opinion, the BIGGEST transformation there can be.  Whether you think you know what motherhood is all about or not, your identity completely shifts as soon as your little one enters the world.  Who you were no longer exists (trust me, I’ve tried real hard to find her), and it can take a while to accept that. 

The moment my son was swaddled next to me in the hospital, I vividly remember thinking “of course he’s mine.  Of course he’s my son”.   Because suddenly, life made sense.  Every win, every fail, every tear, every joy, had brought me to this moment of motherhood. 

And this is where I belong. 

But do you know where else I belong? 

Home alone working while Nanna takes my baby for a walk.  Out on date night with my boyfriend.  Out for brunch with my girlfriends.  At the gym working on my Mom Bod.  Reading a book in peace.  Meditating without worrying my baby will wake up. 

I could go on.

It's really all about being a woman outside of being a mom, and not feeling guilty about it.

So yes, motherhood is where I am meant to be, but it is not who I am. 

I refuse to feel guilty about that, and you should too momma.  Because the women we are outside of motherhood makes us better partners, friends, daughters, sisters, and most of all, better mothers.  And if we promise to take care of ourselves first – make our self care a daily priority, life really will be that much easier.  The mom guilt won’t be as present, the to do list will get a lot shorter, and our independence won’t seem light years away.

So just remember momma, it is okay to want more than the mom life, even if motherhood is exactly where you belong!

With Love,

Your More Than Mom Lifestyle Coach

Nicole BrittonComment